Christianity is all about relationships. No one should be better at that than those of us who are followers of Jesus Christ. When we are truly connected with God, He enables us to live without fear, which disables us, and to develop and enjoy relationships that are life giving.
The first time God said something wasn’t good is this: “It is not good for man to be alone.”
I want to encourage you (appeal, exhort, beg) that you be in relationship with a handful of other people who are outside your work, that you are doing life with. Well-known author and physiologist Dr. Henry Cloud says that the first instruction he gives his clients is that they need to make sure their team is intact. They usually say that they are in the process of completing it only to find out that they are talking about two different teams. The CEO is talking about his team that he has in his workplace, and Dr. Cloud is talking about your team that has nothing to do with your career. Dr. Cloud says that when you are surrounded by the right team outside of your work, it makes work and life go much better.
The characteristics that are needed in our team are spiritually and emotionally healthy people. People who can pour into us and help us maintain a godly perspective on the things that we are having to deal with both in work and life. When we are connected with people like this, and give them access into our lives and the freedom to speak, we will find ourselves with strength, stamina, productivity, and confidence that we would not otherwise have. Remember, the more disconnected we are with others, the more fear we will experience in our lives. We believe that one of the best ways to ensure this is to live in community with a handful of other people. For us it would be join a small group.
Here at NewPointe, one of our values is this:
There is power in full grace and complete truth, which is best experienced in authentic community. Doing life alone is deadly. Who has your complete trust and can speak truths that you may not want to hear?
A study by the California Department of Health Mental found that if you're disconnected from other people . . .
- you're 2 to 3 times more likely to die an early death.
- you're 4 times more likely to suffer from emotional burnout.
- you're 5 times more likely to suffer clinical depression.
- you’re 10 times more likely to be hospitalized for an emotional or mental disorder.
We need human connections for physical, emotional, and spiritual health.
Corner #1 – No Connection: We are disconnected from everyone.
Corner #2 – Bad Connection: The connections we have make us feel bad about ourselves.
Corner #3 – Fake Good: We use something external to fake ourselves into feeling good.
Corner #4 – Real Connection: Truly valuable and value-adding relationships.
The thing about Corner #4 is that it only happens when we walk into relationships vulnerable enough to let our needs be known. Is your team experiencing real connection? Are you personally living with the vulnerability required for real relationships? The quality of the relationships on your team will stem from your personal level of openness to create them.